This, the first in a series on fashion both for trannies everywhere as well as larger ladies in Bangkok, is about my personal approach, and how it might help other MFT trans women.
Many trans MTF women who only started to realize their trans self in later life, over compensate for their masculinity with their fashion to the point of emphasizing their masculinity. I’m occasionally guilty of this myself and am forever worrying about trying too hard, so I happily rely on the candor of close friends to steer me right. When you’ve not embraced your femininity from an early age and grown up experimenting and practicing with styles in clothes and makeup, perfection doesn’t come instantly, and it’s about knowing your own body as much as it is about having the confidence to wear what makes you feel good without concern of what others may think.
I soften my look through my choice of tops and accessories because I think my “men’s” legs, in anything other than skinny jeans, draw attention to my physical gender, even though I’m told they’re rather shapely. Still, despite being very self-conscious the times I do venture out in skirts, I enjoy wearing them. I’ve discovered that the main trick is not to try being too feminine and to wear what I wear with confidence, whatever that may be.
Hair is another factor where you can take advantage of an opportunity to look convincing or draw attention to the fact that you’re not a genetic woman, and it’s a tough thing to get right. Typically, women of a certain age plump for shorter styles rather than flowing locks, but whether you’re an advocate of short or long quaffs, it’s best to pick something understated as a daily look. If it’s long, wear it up or back in a pony during the day, but confidence here is key. Donning styles which hide your face with severe fringes and hair that is too luxuriously thick will look like you’re wearing a wig whether you are or not.
If you’re new to your trans life, wigs are a great way to start, and comparatively cheap in Thailand. I’ve amassed quite a number of very good quality wigs over the years, and bought most from Sampaeng Lane in Chinatown. They’re hot to wear here in a humid, tropical climate, and I’m glad that I now have natural long hair, but I needed them while my hair was growing, and I still frequently wear hair pieces on evenings out as I remain quite naff at self hair styling. (I should watch more youtube self help vids.)
Clothes-wise, people on the street are usually the best inspiration, but here in Thailand that’s not always a good idea, so I draw mine from current TV programmes and magazines. While there are some really well put together, fashion forward, trend setters in Bangkok, the average girl on the street in the city here is typically either in a business twin set, something hideously frilly, or sporting hello kitty pajamas…..yes in public.
It remains an ongoing experiment for me to define my sense of style as it is for most, with ideas and inspiration drawn from others, and plenty of trial and error. My best advice; be confident in whatever makes you feel good. In the end, it doesn’t matter if people think you’re not “passable”. You’re dressing for you after all.